Dear Mr Mandela: Helen Joseph was a dear personal friend, and stayed with us in Maritzburg when she'd been invited to speak on various occasions. She was always so proud that you attended her birthday parties in Fanny Avenue, and would tell us, "Nelson came!" The first time you and I met was at Helen's funeral in St Mary's Cathedral. As I walked over to shake your hand, you stood up -- for me, a total stranger! That memory is indelibly imprinted and will remain with me for the rest of my life. Thank you for this and for so much more. Congratulations on your birthday, and God bless you and your loved ones. Tony Gamley and Family